Vance discusses how his traumatic childhood experiences impacted his relationship with his girlfriend, Usha, who he later marries, but how going to a counselor did not work for him. He learns to deal with this adverse childhood experiences through self-reflection and with the help of his wife, Usha. In his quest for understanding, he poses an important question about fate and personal responsibility: "How much of our lives, good and bad, should we credit to our personal decisions, and how much is just the inheritance of our culture, our families, and our parents who have failed their children? How much of Mom’s life her own fault? Where does blame stop and sympathy begin?" (231).
How responsible are we for the outcomes of our lives? Is success all about personal responsibility or something else?
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